A school paper I wanted to share

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Dictionary defines family as a group of people living together and functioning as a single household, usually consisting of parents and their children. It is not as shallow as it sound, hence it affect every single life on the planet. It provides its members with protection, companionship, security, and socialization.

Greater than simple speculations family are not just social groups that deals with raising children and providing them their basic necessities. As a family becomes bigger the more complex it turns out to be. Since it is consist of humans no family is considered to be perfect; the imperfection of one member compliments the other, which makes it a whole. These imperfections that one member of the family can not accept or compliment turns out to be issues that family members needs to discuss among themselves. Issues among families vary from one to another, but its effect is seemly parallel to one another. Its weight and cost are as damaging as a meteor hitting the ground if not resolved.

Superiority is one of the greatest issues that men had to deal with. In a family the one with a greater superiority (maybe the father or the mother) tends to have an absolute control over other members. Example of it would be –the implementation of house rules among its members; (“no wearing of orange clothes” because father hates orange) – the rule only benefits one member of the family which shows that member’s superiority over the others not only promote inequality among them but it can also lead to crimes such as abuse of women or children, it can also hinders child’s development, rebellion among children and worst is death –maybe of abuse victims or commitment of suicide thinking that it would be the best solution to escape the problem. But although it is of mans’ nature to dominate over those who have less power, aware or not can cause pain to the subject. It can be avoided through humility, cooperation, team work and understanding.

Generation Gap is one of many family issues; here the parents could not understand the transition in their children and vise versa. Usually these happen when the children reach their adolescence stage where they get more curious, they wanted to maximize their liberty without even thinking about the possible cause of their actions, they try to experiences everything and often wanted to fit in a crowd. They also tend to enjoy their friends company than their parents, which leads to parent’s assumption – that their children might be involve it some illegal or improper behavior (usually the basis is the traditional approach on certain things during their time.) and usually because the mode of thinking that might not jive to one another these could end up to an argument and children tends to think that their parents are villains that hinders them from having fun; while parents think that these are just rebellious act of their children that must be stopped ASAP!. The solution is understanding and communication with these a family can build a bridge between them here the parents should learn to accept the difference of their life from their children’s lives and children should be open to their parents about the things they want to do or want to know.

Financial issue is not an issue created by a family but most likely it hits every family in the society like a lightning rod. Often times financial issues causes fight among husband and wife and disability for a family. Through this the family could no longer supply the basic necessity of its members as an individual. Parents could no longer send their children to a decent school and the worst possible scenario is that they do not have anything to fill their stomachs. The solution in this problem is hard to define one solution can be damaging to others only the government has the power to solve this crisis that affects man in every part of the world. The best possible solution which I think the family can do is to minimize their expenses and work very hard to supply their needs. The rest is just a question unanswered.

Technology mans answer to fulfill its discontentment. There are several different product of technology that might be sources of the different family issues that we have. Technology has made it easy for man to have what it needs. It is as simple as clicking a button; once you have access o the Internet it seems that you had access the world. Television, computers, games, Internet, wireless devices all of these are product of technology. And is also an issue in a family. Like anything around us technology has its own Pros and cons in the family. It can bring a family together however; it can also rip it apart. Like for example the use of cell phones and Internet. These provides family the accessible and fast way to communicate however cell phones and Internet can be like brick walls that can isolate one member of the family from another. The children will have less time to interact personally to their parents because at the back of their mind “the cell phone is always there when I need to call mommy”. On the other hand emails and instant messaging can endanger a life of individuals and also pollute young minds, it hinders one to interact personally and promotes kids to become couch potatoes as they grew older. The only solution for this is the proper education and that each parent should spend more time interacting to their children than allowing them to be techno-slaves.

Divorce, Annulment, and Legal separation  The effects of divorces are of extreme ends, and it is very seldom that the divorce came out good. Usually the attitude of the children toward life is affected they tend to be alone and to think that life is full of disappointment, some became rebellious and other engage in illegal drugs. However these problems could be avoided if the family would have worked things out before it was transformed into a worst scenario. It would have not end up to divorce only if the mother or the father listens to one another and the other issues were resolve.

Family issues are common among family, but having one does not mean that a family will collapse or be destroyed; on the bright side it can help the family strengthen the bonds of its members. The solutions that can avoid or resolve these issues even while having a family dinner the family should only have the right ingredients to have a delicious course which includes - open channels of communication, understanding, humility, optimism, faith, acceptance and above all the love that binds every family together.


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